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EMOTIONS, part 7 - Love In Problem Marriages...continued quotes
1) The Emotion of Love Dealing With An Unbelieving Spouse in the Marriage
“If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?” 1 Corinthians 7:12-16.
These verses reveal that there is no Biblical right to divorce and end the marriage just because your spouse is an unbeliever.
2) If your spouse will not convert to your faith, then make the best of the situation. Pray to God to forgive you for getting yourself in an unequal marriage, and plead with Him to provide you with grace and strength to endure and live up to the full stature of a man or woman in Christ Jesus.
God stated that “the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the (believing) wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the (believing) husband”. The Greek word for “sanctified” used here is “hagiazo”, which translates and means “to make holy, purify, consecrate, sanctify” (Strong’s Exhaustive Concordance, word #37). This reveals that by the holy life and Godly actions of the believing spouse allowing Christ to live through them and not self, then these holy influences would gradually work to influence the unbelieving spouse to become more holy and purified in their life.
“A little leaven leaveneth the whole lump.” Galatians 5:9.
“And again he (Christ) said, Whereunto shall I liken the kingdom of God? It is like leaven, which a woman took and hid in three measures of meal, till the whole was leavened.” Luke 13:20-21.
By choosing to remain living with an unbelieving spouse may be the means of their conversion. You may be the only one whom God can use to effectively reach the heart of your unbelieving spouse, and awaken them to salvation! So do not become discouraged and give up, and God will bless you efforts.
3) What if the unbelieving spouse leaves you, or even divorces you?
God stated “if the unbelieving depart, let him depart”. The Greek word for “depart” used here is “ehoreo”, which translates and means “to be given space” (Strong’s, word #5562). This means that if the unbelieving spouse chooses to live somewhere else apart from you, then you are not to prevent them leaving.
God then further declared that “A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases”, because “God hath called us to peace”. The Greek word for “bondage” used here is “douloo”, and it translates and means “to enslave, be under bondage, become a servant” (Strong’s, word #1402). This means that if your unbelieving spouse leaves, you are not a slave or servant under bondage to the point of being forced to continue living with them under such unfavorable conditions to your spirituality. Life will be so much more easier in serving God without having to live with an unbelieving spouse who is constantly creating an atmosphere of bickering, division and dissension in the marriage. God “hath called us to peace” in this particular situation, and in order to achieve this peace God stated that none of His followers are forced to have to endure living in turmoil with an unbelieving spouse.
But just because your unbelieving spouse leaves and departs from you, does not mean that your marriage vow is immediately broken and you are now free to remarry. Only adultery or death can free the other spouse from their marriage vow and allow them to remarry in the Lord.